Heart of a Fighter

Gwen was born nineteen years ago today.  She was 3 months premature and only weighed 2 pounds 2 ounces.  Gwen spent the first few months of her life in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, with all kinds of tubes and IV’s coming out of her little body.

It was a precarious time and her survival was far from guaranteed.  In spite of it all, Gwen managed to thrive and is now a beautiful young woman.

My message for Gwen on her birthday, never forget you have the heart of a fighter.  You proved that by surviving and thriving during those first few months of life.  That strength and spirit will always be within you.  When struggles come your way, remember you have the heart of a fighter and you will prevail.

Pop Goes the Eardrum

It all started last Friday.  I had a headache that just would not get better.  As the days passed, I also started to get body aches.  It felt kind of like having the flu, minus the congestion.

Yesterday, there was a tremendous pressure inside my head.  It felt like there was a monster inside my head that was trying to squeeze me to death.

Then all of sudden, I felt a popping sensation and fluid started to pour out of my left ear.  The pressure had ruptured my eardrum and I felt immediate relief.  The fluid continually poured out of my ear for several hours.

I have antibiotic drops to treat the underlying infection and should be back to normal in just a few days.

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Birthday Clusters

For some reason, my family tends to have birthday clusters.  This week we have three birthdays.  Aaron’s birthday was yesterday.  Buddy’s birthday is today and Gwen will celebrate her birthday on Thursday.

The next cluster happens in September.  My mom will celebrate her birthday on the 6th and my birthday is on the 10th.

I think it’s strange how we have these birthday clusters, but it is also kind of cool.

 

Happy Birthday Buddy

Buddy and his siblings had been abandoned as new born puppies.  They were taken to a veterinarian hospital in Mobile, Alabama.  The puppies received medical treatment and care until they were old enough to be adopted.

Gwen’s dog T-Bone had recently passed away and she missed having a canine companion.  Arrangements were made for Buddy to be transported to Huntsville, Alabama.

Buddy has become a wonderful friend and companion to Gwen.  He also gets along great with the other Thaler dogs.  Buddy is friendly, caring, energetic, and intelligent.  He is a wonderful dog and is loved by everyone.

Today, Buddy turns 3 years old.  Of course we had a special doggy birthday cake and all of the dogs got a new toy.

Happy Birthday Buddy

The Black Hole of Death

Today is Aaron’s birthday.  It should be spent having fun, singing, and laughing.  However, Aaron died three years ago.  There will be no signing or laughing today.

When Aaron died, I lost my brother, Gwen lost her father, and Mom lost her son.  His death created a black hole in our family.  This black hole creates a suction that drags feelings of joy and happiness into it’s abyss.  It only leaves feelings of despair and grief.

Our family will never be the same without Aaron.  His death will impact all of us for the rest of our lives.  I just wish we could somehow banish the black hole from our mist.  That we could learn to laugh and sing again.

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Deception Detection

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The book, Spy the Lie, is about deception detection.  It covers common behavioral traits found in people when they lie.

The first section of the book talks about behavioral myths.  There are no automatic signs of deception.  People’s behavior will change based on a number of reasons, so it is important to know the context of each behavior.

The second section of the book, looks at common communication and behavioral patterns of people who are being deceptive.  However, it is important to keep in mind that things are not always what they seem and context matters.

The following are signs of deception:

  1.  Failure to answer
  2. Absence of an explicit denial
  3. Statements that fail to answer the question
  4. Inconsistent statements
  5. Going into attack mode
  6. Overly specific answers
  7. Process or procedural complaints
  8. Failure to understand a simple question
  9. Selective Memory
  10. Qualifiers