Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

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The book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, was written by Dr. John Gray.  It was published in the 1990’s, and is still popular today.

To be honest, I didn’t like the book.  I found it to be stereotypical and redundant.  The aspect that bothered me the most was the repetitiveness of each concept.  I felt like I was reading the same information in each chapter, with only a slight variation in wording.

Have you read this book?  What did you think about it?

My Extra-Terrestrial Friend (A Short Story)

My name is Dr. Haley Armstrong and I have an extra-terrestrial friend.

It all started in 2147, while I was working at the Mars Research Laboratory (Site A).  The lab was old and rarely used, so I was alone that day.  A massive storm was raging on the planet, so all I could see was clouds of red dust swirling around the facility.  That’s why I never noticed the small spacecraft approaching the launch bay.

The first time I actually got a glimpse of Triad was on the security camera.  I am not ashamed to say, I almost fainted.  Triad walked down the corridor and bypassed the security code on each door, as if it was child’s play.  He was tall and slender.  His skin had a distinctive greenish tint, but the funniest thing about him was his attire.  He was dressed like a 20th century hippy.

Triad reached the door outside my room and looked into the camera.  He asked if he could come inside the room to talk to me.  It’s not like he needed my permission.  There was nothing I could do to stop him.

My body was trembling with fear and I wanted to hide.  However, I also longed to meet this strange individual at my door.  After a few tense moments, Triad smiled and said, “I understand.  I will wait out here until you are ready to talk to me.”

He seemed so polite and didn’t look threatening at all.  I opened the door, even though my brain was screaming for me to stop.

Triad introduced himself.  He was an anthropology student and specialized in galactic studies.  He was working on a research project and was given strict instructions to never make contact with any Earthlings, because we are irrational and have violent tendencies.

For some reason, Triad sensed I was different.  He was taking a great risk by coming to meet me.  If he was captured by unscrupulous scientist, he would probably be killed and dissected for the purpose of scientific research.

If his existence became public knowledge, it would lead to wide spread panic and destruction.  However, Triad believed in my peaceful nature and in my ability to keep our friendship a secret.

I just stared at him.  I was completely at a loss for words.  My mind was spinning, as if a tornado was jumbling up each thought and I couldn’t even manage to say my own name.

Triad paused for a second and laughed.  He said, “I know my appearance is rather shocking.”

After what seemed like an eternity, I was finally able to introduce myself.  There was a gleam of happiness in Triad’s eyes.  He extended his hand saying, “I believe your people grasp each other’s hand as a sign of friendship.  Is that correct?”

I was finally starting to relax, so I reached out and took his hand.  His skin was warm and silky smooth.

We talked for hours.  He told me all about his planet and his people.  They are a peaceful bunch.  There hasn’t been a war in just over 5 millennium.  Their life span is on average 250 years.

Triad was 82, but still was not old enough to teach at the educational centers.  He recently completed his mandatory studies and would spend the next 15 to 20 years conducting field research.

I asked Triad about intergalactic space travel.  He tried to explain it to me, but it was way beyond my comprehension.

I told Triad about my family and my future aspirations.  We talked about life on Earth and what it was like to work at the Mars research laboratory.  It was a great privilege; only the best scientist are allowed to work on Mars.  We spend one year on Mars and then return to Earth for at least two years.

Triad decided to try some of the food I had with me, but it literally made him vomit.  He was so embarrassed and apologized profusely.  Now, it was my turn to laugh.

The storm was starting to clear and Triad said he must leave.  He didn’t want anyone in the other laboratories  to see him or his spacecraft.

I stammered a few words that didn’t make much sense, even to me.  I desperately wanted to continue talking to Triad.  He looked at me with understanding and said he would also like to communicate with me in the future.

Triad handed me a black device, about the size of my thumb.  The front of the device had three red lights and each side had a button.  The back of the device was covered in tiny writing that looked like some kind of crazy mathematical equation.

Triad asked me, “Do you know Morse code?”

I looked at him with astonishment.  I told him, “It’s an antiquated form of communication.  Nobody uses it.”

Triad learned Morse code as part of his studies.  He created a cheatsheet for me, so I could learn it too.  Then he taught me how to use the device.  I could use it to send Triad messages in Morse code and he would respond back in kind.

If someone accidentally found the device, it would look like random light impulses that can be used for relaxation or meditation.  I would be the only person able to understand the messages created by the flashing lights.

As Triad turned to leave, I screamed “Wait!”  I rushed over to him and grabbed him in an embrace.  Tears were pouring down my face.  Between each sobbing breath, I managed to tell Triad how grateful I was for his trust and how much I looked forward to communicating with him in the future.

Triad was surprised by my display of emotions.  He responded by saying, “Now I know, I have a true Earth friend.  I hope one day, I will be able to see you in person once again.”

Triad left and I haven’t seen him since that day.  However, we send messages to each other frequently.  Triad is my extra-terrestrial pen-pal and a true (all be it strange) friend.

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Dog Care the A-Z List

A – Agility is a great sport for high energy dogs.  It also creates a deeper bond between dog and owner.

B – Boarding options should be researched in advance to ensure your dog will be comfortable and will be well cared for when you have to be away from him.

C – Collars shouldn’t be tight or constricting.  Make sure you can easily slide two fingers under the collar.

D – Dog parks are a great way to allow your dog time to socialize with other dogs and expend some of their energy.  They are also a wonderful place for the owner to make new friends.

E – Emergency veterinarian clinics are available in many locations.  Research your area and find the one closest to you, so you know where to go in case of a medical emergency.

F – Food for dogs come in a wide variety of quality.  Reading the label will help you find food that has quality ingredients.  Try to stay away from brands that are made of corn and meat byproducts to keep your dog healthy and happy.

G – Grooming your dog can be great bonding opportunity.  Most dogs love to have their coats brushed.  However, bath time can be a bit tricky with a dog.  It is important to be patient, positive, provide warm water, and do your best to make your dog comfortable.

H – Heartworms are deadly parasites that live in the heart and they are transmitted by misquote bites.  Heartworm prevention can save your dog’s life.  Talk to your veterinarian if your dog is not already on a heartworm prevention medication.

I – Identification is important, in case your dog ever gets lost.  Putting tags on your dog’s collar and having them microchipped will increase the chances of your dog returning home.

J – Jumping is a common problem with dogs.  To teach a dog not to jump, ignore them whenever they try it.  I will turn away from the dog and not even look at them, until they become calm.

K – Kids love to pet dogs, but it is important to monitor them for the dog’s safety and the children’s safety.

L – Leashes come in a variety of styles.  Retractable leashes can be dangerous, because they break easily.  They can also get stuck, which makes it difficult to get your dog under control in a potentially dangerous situation.

M – Mothers and puppies should stay together for at least six to eight weeks.  The puppies need time to mature and be weened.  They also benefit by learning appropriate dog manners from their mother and their siblings.

N – Natural disasters happen all over the world.  It is important to have a plan for your dog in case of emergency situations.

O – Oral hygiene is often overlooked in dogs, but having an unhealthy mouth can cause other medical problems.  Dry food is better for the dog’s teeth.  It is also important to have their teeth regularly cleaned.

P – Paws are another area that tends to get overlooked.  Dogs need their nails trimmed to prevent foot pain and injury.  They also need the pads on their feet inspected for any cuts or abrasions that may need to be treated.

Q – Quite spaces to rest are important to dogs.  They like having a little personal space from time to time.  Teach children not to disturb the dog, when they are in their quite/personal resting space.

R – Rescue organizations are full of dogs of every size and breed.  Dogs get sent to these places for a number of reasons and it is often not the dog’s fault.  You can find a great dog by checking your local rescue organization.

S – Socialization is important for all dogs.  They need to know how to behave around other dogs and people.  When socializing your pet, try to introduce them to all kinds of people.

T – Training your dog can be fun and creates a deeper bond between you and your pet.  Training can be done at home or you can take your dog to a training school.  I enjoy the training schools, because we get to meet different people and practice training skills in a wide variety of settings.

U – Understanding your dog will improve your relationship with your dog.  Dogs use body language to communicate with us and other dogs.  You can easily learn what your dog is saying by reading books on dog body language or doing a little bit of online research.

V – Vaccinations help your dog stay healthy and live a longer life.  A lot of countries require dogs to be vaccinated for rabies, but there are other diseases that can be prevented through vaccinations (parvovirus, distemper, bordetella, and canine hepatitis).

W – Walking your dog can be a lot of fun for both you and the dog.  Dogs love to explore and sniff new areas.  They also love doing fun things with their owner.

X – Xerox copies of important documents (vaccination records, microchip information, and other medical documents) can be a life saver in emergency situations.

Y – Yacking or spitting up stuff is a common problem.  Dogs will vomit much easier and more often than humans.  When a mother dog is trying to ween her puppies, she will eat food and then regurgitate it back out for the puppies.  This allows the puppies to go from milk to soft foods and eventually to eating regular food.  That’s why dogs are more prone to vomiting.  However, it can also be a sign that your dog needs medical attention.

Z – Zest and a zeal for life is common among dogs.  They tend to appreciate the mundane things of life and bring joy to those around them.

Make a Friend Day

It’s Make a Friend Day, so I decided to post a few tips on how to make friends.

  • Be willing to help others, even if it’s not convenient for you.  One day you will need help and it will be an inconvenience to other people.
  • Be willing to forgive and remember nobody is perfect.  One day you will need people to forgive you.
  • Celebrate the successes of other people and resist jealousy.
  • Comfort people in times of failure or need, without gloating or belittling them.
  • Be a trustworthy person.

Basically, be the friend you want your friend to be.

Cute dog friendship photos to celebrate Make a Friend Day

Ben is the large white dog.  He is a Great Pyrenees and weighs over 100 pounds.  Buddy is the black dog.  He is a Beagle/Rottweiler mix and weighs just under 50 pounds.  Both dogs are two years old and, as you can see from the pictures, they are best friends.

Practical Philosophy vs. Metaphysics

Lately, I have been wondering about the differences and similarities between practical philosophy and metaphysics.  There is a lot of overlap between the two subjects.

Practical philosophy uses philosophical ideas and incorporates them into everyday life.  It focuses on life skills (decision making, interpersonal relationships, and ethics for example) and tends to be reflective in nature.

Metaphysics is a branch of philosophy that is also practical and reflective in nature.  It covers a lot of the same topics as practical philosophy.  Metaphysics also covers topics dealing with unexplained phenomena.

I think the main difference is metaphysics deals more with spirituality and religion when trying to answer questions about the origin and meaning of life

That’s my thoughts on the subject, but I would love to know what you think about it.

 

Say it Again and Again and Again

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I often repeat things or rephrase what I just said and say it again.  If I have something important to say, the likelihood of repeating the statement goes up drastically.

Why is that?

It’s a subconscious behavior.  I am not really thinking about it at the time.  It comes from a lifetime of misunderstandings due to my own hearing disability.

I automatically assume the person may have trouble hearing me or understanding my statements, so I feel the need to clarify.