Scott Sauls encourages people to be friends with those who are different from themselves. In his book (Befriend), he explains why this is beneficial to both parties. He also gives advice on how to achieve this goal.
In the first part of the book, he explains:
Real love, real friendship, is vulnerable. And risky. And costly. And discomforting. And Disquieting. And Agitating like sandpaper sometimes. But the alternative is a heart that ends up in a relational casket or coffin. And who wants that?
Overall, I did enjoy the book and I agree with what he had to say. I should make more friends that are different from me. I am going to work on this over the next few weeks and see how it goes.
There are some disabilities which are invisible, meaning you can’t tell the person has the disability just by looking at them.
Hearing impairment is an invisible disability and that can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings.
Family and friends will shrug off my failure to respond, my problems with understanding, and even answers that make no sense. They know about my hearing disability and they understand how it causes problems in my daily life.
Strangers or even people that don’t know me very well, may assume I am rude or stupid. They may allow their assumptions to stop them from getting to know me, which I think is sad.
When I was in 3rd grade, my teacher decided to play two records throughout the school day. The first record had children’s music and the other record was classical music.
At the end of the day the teacher asked, “Who liked the first record?” The entire class, except me, raised their hand. Then he asked, “Who liked the second record?” I was the only student that raised their hand.
The teacher looked at me with a quizzical expression. He asked more questions to clarify. I told him, I liked the classical music. The teacher paused for a second. Then he said, “You must be a genius.”
I must confess. I picked the second record, because no one else did and not because I had a great appreciation for classical music.
I just like to be different.