I was talking to Gwen and she expressed concerns about what life will be like after college. Will she be able to find a job and make enough money to become self-sufficient?
I told her, “Of course you will.” Then I went on my merry way.
A few days later, I got to thinking about that conversation and how I dismissed her concerns. I remember having those same fears at her age. It seems like a distant memory now, but at the time it was real and stressful.
I realized I owe Gwen an apology for not paying attention to what she was saying. Instead of dismissing her concerns, I should have told Gwen I understand what she is feeling and it is normal. I should have been more empathetic and reassuring. I should have reminded her that I am here to help in anyway I can.
What happens to a person when their soul dies, but their body remains alive?
Memories of goodness remain, but evil resides inside their heart.
Can they follow that memory and live a good life?
Can they hide the darkness from the world?
Are they doomed to follow that darkness?
Is there any hope for someone when their soul dies, but their body is alive?
A writer uses words to pour their heart and soul onto the page. As a result, they leave themselves open to the world. What happens next is out of their control.
People may react with love, kindness, or admiration. They have the ability to inspire the writer to continue their work. They lift up the writer’s self-esteem and give the writer a feeling of power,
People may also respond with ridicule and hate. They have the ability to rip out the writer’s heart and stomp on it until the writer is left broken and dejected.
Writing can be dangerous. Writers need to have an inner-strength to continually put their words and ideas out there for the world to see.
Yesterday, Gwen and I went to Carnegie Visual Arts Center in Decatur, Alabama.
My favorite exhibit was “Safe” by Sarah Carlisle Towery. The colors in the painting are striking. You can see the deep emotions felt by the subject of the painting. I think it’s an excellent piece of art, and I really enjoyed having the opportunity to view it.
I enjoy working with and training my dogs. I’ve read a ton of books on dog training and attended several different training schools with my dogs. However, the book “Three Dimensional Dog” by Aaron McDonald is different from anything I have encountered up to this point.
It was eye opening and changed my entire approach to dog training. While I was reading the book, I was wondering why didn’t I think about these issues. It seems so obvious now.
The first part of the book explains the differences between trick training and cognitive behavior training.
Most dogs are trained to perform an action for a treat. The training is focused only on the outer behavior of the dog. This is known as trick training.
Cognitive behavior training looks at the whole dog. It addresses the inner mind and emotions of the dog and uses that information to teach the dog how to live peacefully within the family unit. The three dimensional approach to dog training is based on cognitive behaviorism.
The first dimension that needs to be addressed is the dog’s emotional needs. Does the dog feel safe and have appropriate boundaries? Are the dog’s physical needs being addressed?
The second dimension is concerned with what the dog is thinking. Before a dog does anything they will develop an intellectual plan. Paying attention to the dog’s body language will tell you how the dog is feeling and give you insight into what the dog is thinking.
The third dimension involves action. It is everything the dog does with their body. This is where traditional training methods actually start.
Addressing the dogs physical, emotional, and intellectual needs will allow the dog to reach a state of actualization. Also, focusing on the three dimensions help the dog achieve a balanced emotional state. This allows the dog to reach their fullest potential and be a functioning member of the family unit.
Life hasn’t always been easy for me. I have faced various traumatic events, dealt with grief, struggled with disabilities, and endured hardships. However, I will not allow those things to control me or destroy me. I am an overcomer.
I want to move forward to remain strong. I want to use my negative experiences to make me resilient. If I can overcome my past experiences then I can conquer whatever the future holds for me.
Have I ever found myself dwelling on my pity pot, crying about my struggles, and winning about why these things happened to me? The answer is yes. I admit I find it cathartic to do so at times.
There is no shame in feeling defeated or feeling sorry for yourself. Those are natural human emotions.
The important thing is to get off the pity pot and continue moving forward. Don’t let your past destroy your future.