Death of a Sibling

The death of my brother (Aaron Thaler) was devastating.

I was a few weeks shy of 3 years old when Aaron was born, so he was a part of my life for as long as I can remember.

My father was in the Army and we grew up overseas.  I didn’t really get to know my extended family until I was a teenager and I never had the same friend for more than a couple of years.

That made my relationship with Aaron even more special.  He was that one person I was able to play with and fight with, all throughout my childhood years.  He was my only consistent friend.

We had our ups and downs together.  Many battles were fought and a lot of blood was spilt.  However, no grudges were held.  After a few days, we would laugh about the last fight as if it was all a game.

Aaron died suddenly and I spent the first month in a state of shock.  Eventually the reality hit me and I went into a deep state of depression.

I will always miss my brother.

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The Power of Forgiveness

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.  (Martin Luther King, Jr.)

The weak can never forgive.  Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.  (Mahatma Gandhi)

Forgiveness is not always easy.  At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it.  And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.  (Marianne Williamson)

The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive, but do not forget.  (Thomas Szasz)

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.  (Bernard Meltzer)

Forgiveness is for yourself because it frees you.  It lets you out of that prison you put yourself in.  (Louise L. Hay)

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Will Stop for Turtles

I am one of those people that will help turtles cross the road.

A few weeks ago, I was driving with Mom and Gwen in the Jeep.  We were on a four-lane highway and I spotted a turtle.  I pulled over and rushed to help the turtle get to his destination.

The turtle wasn’t happy about being picked up by me.  However, once we made it across the road he continued on his merry way.

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I can’t save all the animals in the world, but I can do my part and try to save some of the animals in the world.

Dealing with Bad Situations

We all have to deal with bad situations from time to time.  However, there are several things we can do to help us through the hard times.

  1.  Remain flexible – Being overly rigid can cause the bad situation to get worse, while flexibility allows us to find solutions.
  2. Perspective – Life is not fair, how you view your situation will determine how you feel and how well you can deal with the situation.
  3. Learn from the situation – Learning from what is happening might help you avoid similar situations or at least help you resolve similar situations quickly in the future.
  4.  Ask for help – We all need help from time to time, so don’t be afraid to ask for it.

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