Victim vs. Survivor

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According to dictionary.com a victim is, “one that is injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions,” and a survivor is “a person who copes well with difficulties in their life.”

We cannot prevent tragedy or disaster from occurring in our life, but we can choose how to react to those events.  We can decide to be a victim or a survivor.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

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This is an excellent book that teaches the reader how to live peacefully in a complicated world.  The author starts the book by making three key points.

  1. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other.
  2. Without, patience, life is extremely frustrating.  You are easily annoyed, bothered, and irritated.  Patience adds a dimension of ease and acceptance to your life.  It’s essential for inner peace.
  3. Humility and inner peace go hand in hand.  The less compelled you are to prove yourself to others, the easier it is to feel peaceful inside.

The rest of the book is spent giving detailed information on how to deal the various situations without losing your inner peace.  It’s full of practical advice and I highly recommend it.

 

Beyond the Box by Judith Rich, Ph.D.

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Do you ever feel like your life is stuck in a rut?  If so, this book is for you.  The author provides tips on how to improve your life and thought patterns.  Here are a few examples:

  1. Develop your courage muscles by doing something everyday that scares the heck out of you.
  2. Consider your available options, and choose one that stretches and empowers you.
  3. Take action based on making the choice that empowers and inspires you to move forward.
  4. Mistakes are where learning happens, so don’t be afraid of making them.

The Art of Saying No

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The author teaches readers how to say, “No” with grace and respect by using the EDC method.

  • Empathize – let the other person know you understand where they are coming from
  • Describe – describe the situation from your experience in an objective and rational manner
  • Clarify – clarify your needs and how you would like to see the situation progress

This is an excellent book and I highly recommend it.