Family Reunion at the Funeral Home

I was at a funeral a few weeks ago, and I was talking to family members I haven’t seen in ages.  Of course everyone was saying things like, “We only get together at funerals.  We should do better, but I’ve been so busy.”

It’s a common sentiment in our day and time, but it got me thinking.  Are we really that busy?  The answer is “no.”

When someone dies, we always find time to be there for their funeral.  Why can’t we do that when they are alive?

The Orange Conference 2017 – Seven Habits of Emotionally Healthy Leaders

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During the Orange Conference, Craig Jutila lead a breakout session called, “Seven Habits of Emotionally Healthy Leaders.”

The presentation was interesting and funny at times.  I could relate to a lot of what Craig Jutila had to say, so I decide to share my notes on my blog.

Seven Habits of Emotionally Healthy Leaders by Craig Jutila:

  1.  Forgetfulness – Forget your past failures, forget negative comments, and forget your past successes
  2. Connectedness – Connect with people, connect with a champion that encourages you, connect with a friend that knows you and still loves you, and connect with a mentor that can speak truth into your life
  3. Allness – Be here now, be all here, and be present in the moment
  4. Lightheartedness – It’s ok to laugh and have fun
  5. Awareness – Be aware of your internal narrative, be socially aware, also be aware of the feelings, needs, behaviors, and concerns of other people
  6. Selectiveness – Be selective in what you do each day, because saying yes to the good things, may cause you to say no to the better things
  7. Adaptableness – Be willing to change and adapt, also shift your thinking from what will I lose to what will I gain

Make Rest a Priority

In Matthew 11:20-12:21, we learn Jesus is Lord of the Sabbath and he wants to offer rest for our weary souls.  All we need to do is follow Jesus.

Rest is often undervalued in our society.  There is so much to do at work, at school, and our options for entertainment are phenomenal.  Granted entertainment is fun, but it can also prevent us from getting the rest we need.

Jesus offers us spiritual rest.  We can trust in his acceptance and forgiveness.  He invites us to destress our souls and spend quite time with him in worship, prayer and meditation.  He wants to help us overcome our anxieties and our fears.

We know rest is important and we know the consequences of not getting enough rest.

  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Increased risk of disease
  • Decreased ability to function
  • Decreased ability to focus
  • Anxiety
  • Increased aggression

Make rest a priority in your life and you will notice the difference.

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Old Stuff Day

This is Old Stuff Day.  When I think about old stuff in my house, the first thing that comes to mind is this washboard.

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My grandmother, Edith (Stevens) Lynn, purchased the washboard in 1957, from Carabaos Store in Anchorage, Alaska.  My grandfather was in the Army and he was stationed there at the time.

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It’s amazing to think about how different their lives were from mine.  I can’t even fathom how long it would take to do laundry for an entire family with a washboard or how much elbow grease was involved in that task.

Life for them was hard.  They moved constantly with the Army and sometimes spent less than one year at a location before moving again.  They raised four kids and would sacrifice to provide the best possible life for their children.

My mom remembers in the early years, when my grandfather was just a private, my grandmother would skip meals.  She sat at the table and said she wasn’t hungry.  However, the truth was she didn’t have enough food to feed everyone.  She decided her husband needed a good meal, since he was a soldier, and the children needed food to grow, be healthy, and do well in school.

The washboard now hangs in our laundry room, but it’s more than a decorative piece.  It is a reminder of my family legacy.

The sacrifice and hard work of my grandparents, gave my mom the chance at a good education and an example of how to survive in the world.

Mom passed that legacy down to her children.  Today my life successes are a reflection of that tradition and I try to teach Gwen the same values I learned from Mom.

It began over 60 years ago, a tradition of hard work, dedication, and love for your family.  It still continues to this day, thanks to my grandparents, Frank and Edith Lynn.