Beyond the Box by Judith Rich, Ph.D.

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Do you ever feel like your life is stuck in a rut?  If so, this book is for you.  The author provides tips on how to improve your life and thought patterns.  Here are a few examples:

  1. Develop your courage muscles by doing something everyday that scares the heck out of you.
  2. Consider your available options, and choose one that stretches and empowers you.
  3. Take action based on making the choice that empowers and inspires you to move forward.
  4. Mistakes are where learning happens, so don’t be afraid of making them.

The Body Keeps Score

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This is a book about PTSD and how trauma changes brain chemistry.  Here are a few things I found interesting:

  • Trauma results in fundamental reorganization of the way mind and brain manage perceptions.  It changes not only how we think and what we think about, but also our very capacity to think.
  • The stress hormones of traumatized people take longer to return to baseline and spike quickly and disproportionally in response to mildly stressful stimuli.
  • Depersonalization (feeling nothing) is one symptom of massive dissociation caused by trauma.

The author also covers various treatment options and the effectiveness of each one.  This is an interesting book and I highly recommend it.

 

The Art of Saying No

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The author teaches readers how to say, “No” with grace and respect by using the EDC method.

  • Empathize – let the other person know you understand where they are coming from
  • Describe – describe the situation from your experience in an objective and rational manner
  • Clarify – clarify your needs and how you would like to see the situation progress

This is an excellent book and I highly recommend it.

 

 

Average Is Extraordinary

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You may be an average person with average abilities, but your life can be extraordinary.  According to Kirsten Wreggitt:

  • Most of us are average, but we fight against it everyday.
  • Embrace your average life and see it as extraordinary.
  • Use your gifts and talents to shift an average life to extraordinary.
  • Look at your accomplishments in the context of your own life.
  • Define your own success in all its originality or in all its commonness.
  • Never tire of following your curiosity.  An average life is extraordinary in those moments of wonder and amazement.

 

I’m Pro Fun

When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun.  And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.  – Joe Namath

At the end of the day, if I can say I had fun, it was a good day.  – Simone Biles

Just keep taking chances and having fun.  – Garth Brooks

Never, ever underestimate the importance of having fun.  – Randy Pausch

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I’m Sorry – A Hard Thing to Say

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Apologizing is not always easy.  You have to be willing to admit to doing wrong, to being ignorant, or to hurting someone.  It takes strength and personal courage to apologize.

When delivering an apology be real and be willing to admit you were wrong.  We all make mistakes.  How you handle those mistakes is a demonstration of your personal character.