Is peace possible?
According to Webster’s Dictionary, peace is defined as a “state of tranquility or quite; freedom from civil disturbance.”
Humans are social beings with a natural desire to connect, to be a part of a group. We also seem to have a natural tendency to fear groups that are different and to look down upon other groups.
Peace isn’t easy. Peace takes work. We have to look deep into ourselves and confront our own demons, before we can be peacemakers. To actually have peace in this world, we all must be willing to go through that uncomfortable process.
I fear this world will never be at peace, because there will always be those who are unwilling to work for peace.
What are your thoughts on the possibility of peace?
It’s easy to judge others. It’s harder to put ourselves in their shoes, view the world as they see it, and offer forgiveness. However, there will come a time when we are the one’s in need of forgiveness. We all do things of which we are not proud. We all feel pain and emotional distress. We all bleed red.
Who controls you? Do you have an internal or an external locus of control?
Those who believe outside forces completely determine what will happen to them, have an external locus of control. They view obstacles as insurmountable and believe they are unable to change their life circumstances.
Those who believe they can impact their life through their own actions, have an internal locus of control. They are not immune to unfortunate events, trauma, or other obstacles. However, they focus on finding solutions to their problems.
It is important to notice, bad things happen to people in both groups. The difference is in how they view negative events and in how they deal with the problems created by those events.
In Matthew 12:22-50, Jesus has a lot to say about character. For example,
- A tree is known by its fruit
- Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks
Webster defines character as the mental and ethical traits of a person. Those traits could be positive or negative.
Positive character traits that I try to incorporate into my life include:
I don’t always live up to my goal, but I learn from my mistakes and try again.
Worrying about what other people will think about us can rob us of our freedom to be a unique individual. Constantly comparing yourself to others will only lead to dissatisfaction. Allow yourself to be free from the superficial ideals of other people.
“The constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” Benjamin Franklin
This documentary is available on Netflix. It takes an in depth look at what makes people happy and how we can improve our own happiness.
Here are a few things from the documentary that I found to be interesting:
- Dopamine is a chemical in the brain and it is a neurotransmitter that makes us feel happy. Physical activity releases dopamine, so engaging in exercise is a natural mood booster.
- Events have a limited impact on our happiness. When something good happens, we may feel ecstatic. However, those feelings will dissipate quickly. When something bad happens, we may feel devastation, but those feelings will also dissipate.
- A key ingredient to happiness is being able to recover from adversity quickly.
- Once our basic needs are meet, an increase in income has a limited affect on our level of happiness.
- You will always be able to find somebody that has more money than you or that has something you don’t have. A constant desire for more will have a negative impact on our happiness.
- The more people focus on money and image the less happy they feel.
- The more people focus on relationships, personal development, and community service the happier they feel.
- Changing your focus from what you don’t have to what you do have that you can share, will promote happiness.
- The building blocks of happiness are play, new experiences, and relationships.
Take time to do something that makes you happy today.
It’s Make a Friend Day, so I decided to post a few tips on how to make friends.
- Be willing to help others, even if it’s not convenient for you. One day you will need help and it will be an inconvenience to other people.
- Be willing to forgive and remember nobody is perfect. One day you will need people to forgive you.
- Celebrate the successes of other people and resist jealousy.
- Comfort people in times of failure or need, without gloating or belittling them.
- Be a trustworthy person.
Basically, be the friend you want your friend to be.
Cute dog friendship photos to celebrate Make a Friend Day
Ben is the large white dog. He is a Great Pyrenees and weighs over 100 pounds. Buddy is the black dog. He is a Beagle/Rottweiler mix and weighs just under 50 pounds. Both dogs are two years old and, as you can see from the pictures, they are best friends.